"How do you do it??"
"I don't know what I would do in your position."
or my personal favorite (sarcasm people)
"Wow, I'm so sorry."
I do it like any other person in my position would do, unless you're really that bad of a person to give up on that child. I accepted what happened and took the opportunity to raise a child that is so special, so forgiving, so loving and I DO enjoy it. What people don't seem to understand is that I have been doing this since I was SIXTEEN YEARS OLD. Sixteen! This is all I know. All I need to know. This is my normal. My mother always jokes with me that I wouldn't know what to do with a child that doesn't have any problems and I may laugh. But she's very much right. All I know are these doctors appointments, therapies, and hospital trips. I wouldn't know what to do with a child that talked, didn't throw up on me on a regular basis(thank god this is over with) and didn't cause me to panic at least once a day. I love my son. SO much. He is my life.
Now, I don't know what you think I do all day. I DO NOT sit home all day and feel sorry for myself, so you should stop doing that for me. There is absolutely no reason for you to tell me how sorry you are. What are you sorry about? I have a special needs child. He is alive and as well as he can be. Stop telling me that. He's different, that's all.
Another thing I would like to address is people staring, and friends not saying anything at all, or pretending he isn't there. Instead of staring ASK ABOUT HIM. I would have SO much more respect for people if they asked about him instead of staring and whispering to one another. Do you like it when people stare and whisper about you? Didn't think so. Stop doing it to us.
People who think they are friends and don't ask about Carsyn, or completely ignore that he is there. You are not friends. I will not tolerate people who do not care. If I am asking about your kid or your life you can ask me about mine. Maybe your scared to ask? Don't be. Sometimes I like talking about him. Just ask the right questions. Don't be rude about it though. Think before you ask. I want you to check this post out. It pretty much explains me along with most other special needs parents. Thanks to my friend Danielle for sending this to me. It really explains a lot of things to you that are hard for me to actually put in words.
I know I said this post would be about the things Carsyn does, I promise I WILL post it. I wanted this out there first.
So until next time <3
“Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be
achieved by understanding.”
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