When people treat special needs kids like they are going to die any second. You know the people that are too nervous to hold them but keep looking at them like they are growing arms out their faces? Yeah. Suck it up, be a grown up and touch the kid. Seriously. The first time I took Carsyn to see my friend Kathy? She scooped him right up. I understand you are nervous about them. This leads me to my second topic.
When people are too afraid to ask questions but can sit across from you and talk to each other about him. WHILE THE PARENT IS SITTING THERE. Dude, seriously? Wait until we leave the room or outright ask the questions. I respect you a whole lot more when you ask a question rather than talk about Carsyn.
When people act like your special needs child is a leper. They don't want to be near him, be seen with him or touch him. Good, bitch. This gives me more cuddle time because I no longer want to see you.
The people who are certain your special needs child can be "fixed". WTF. What am I fixing? There is NOTHING WRONG with having a special needs child. Not a damn thing. I have a handsome, happy little boy. I don't think people understand that kids with severe neurological problems cannot magically be fixed. We, as parents, understand this. Why can't you? For the new parents, people like this give them hope that this will magically go away, but it won't. and when they come to this understanding it hurts even more. You can't make Carsyn's brain magically develop and then everything is all better and he will walk and talk and run around. No. STOP.
The people who hate on special needs children. Calling these kids "retarded" doesn't make you funny, or look cool. It makes you look like an asshole. You deserve to have your uterus/balls ripped off your body. or worse. I hope you as a man will never be able to get it up. and as a woman I hope you end up with the man that can never get it up. Honestly thats putting how I feel about you nicely. You want that hot mom to like you but she's got a special needs child? Get the balls to be nice to that child, and mean it. Play with them, talk to them, hold them. Believe me, she'll know if you mean it or not. Same goes for Fathers with a special needs child. That was one of my biggest turn offs when I was dating. I say this like I'm married, but I am no longer looking for someone. I have my someone. Want to know what sealed the deal? He LOVES Carsyn. and he means it. That parent may like you, but the minute you hate on their child it's over. RESPECT goes a long way, and it's not just for your elders. End of story.
I have a select few friends who hang out with Carsyn and myself. Mainly because they give Carsyn respect. They play with him, talk to him and love him. and that means a lot. but also because I am very paranoid about who is around my son and in my house. I don't trust very easily. So if you've got that trust you better keep it. Don't fuck it up because you will never see me again. Ask a few of my exes. I got rid of a couple because they would come over and completely ignore Carsyn. He did not exist to them. Total RED FLAG. You lost my respect and not only that, they did not ask questions so I couldn't trust them around Carsyn if I left a room to pee. With Todd he was asking questions before he even got to meet Carsyn. and When he did meet him, I would leave the room for three seconds and when I came back he was sitting next to Carsyn talking to him. Now I don't think I could seperate the two of them for a day.
As a parent, that is one of the biggest things you could look for in someone else. Whether it's a friend or potentially a significant other. and the parents that don't take their children into account when it comes to choosing your company... well, you probably shouldn't be a parent.
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